As anyone who reads what I post knows, I recently started working a new job, which I enjoy very much. However lately I have been having some problems, and it has nothing to do with the work itself. It actually has to do with my sexuality. I consider myself and out of the closet gay man, however I’m not one to go flaunting it and telling every person I meet. I am no different from any straight man, most people tell me they are usually surprised to find out I’m gay. However if I am confronted with the serious and honest question of whether or not I am gay, I am honest about it. Even in the work place. My problem with my current job involves sarcastic comments which includes offensive homophobic slurs that seem to never end in the 10 to 13 hour work days. The very first time the word faggot was direct towards me (even in a joking manner) I instantly stopped in my tracks and made it clear I didn’t want that word said around me again, especially directed at me even in general.
It continued as you might have guess. Along with numerous homosexual jokes such as sucking dicks, taking it in the ass, and being the “woman” in a relationship; basically anything else you can think of as well. On a few different occasions I have brought up that I don’t mind joking around, however the level of offense that has been reached, the repetition, and being singled out exclusively is where the problem is. It still continues.
I haven’t addressed my sexuality with my coworkers, as I haven’t felt it necessary, but I am getting very close to letting that cat out of the bag. Maybe I should first start dropping some racist comments around my coworkers of different ethnicities and cultural backgrounds, because in my eyes racist comments and homophobic comments are one in the same. it’s discrimination on a particular person for something he or she can not control. In my case it its no painfully obvious, but with a black/Mexican/Asian/etc person their differences are displayed on their skin right before your eyes and instantly the greater majority of people this day in age completely avoid verbalizing any type of slur while these people different from themselves are present. And that is all that I ask for myself as well. Since being anything within the letters of LGBTQ is not always painfully obvious, as a decent human being you should respect everyone equally and not throw out the types of slurs around people you barely know such as coworkers, or friends of friends.
That’s all I’m going to say, it feels as if I have began to ramble. If anyone has some input on the situation I am faced with, please let me know in the comment section. :) Thanks